A diva accepts herself as she is right now and strives to be even better.
She doesn't change who she is to fit someone else's idea of what she ought to be.
She reaches for her own ideal sense of whom she wants to be.
She's strong; she's courageous; she's creative.
Do you sometimes wonder if it's possible to 'have it all'? Too often we settle for less than life is able to give us. The following seven areas when fully developed form the foundation for a great, fulfilling life. Taking action in any one of these areas can reduce your stress, increase your joy, and potentially turn your life around.
#1: Strengthen Your Relationship with SELF
strong relationship with Self takes patience and commitment. It often
starts with the question many of us ask ourselves: 'Who Am I?' Your
self-relationship starts with self-knowledge and developing your inner
life. Some ways to do this are by journaling, meditating, and tuning in
to and acting on your intuition. Do things that bring you peace of mind
and make you happy, and get to know your creative self.
#2: Honor Your Needs and Practice Self Care
It's okay to be Selfish and take time for YOU! The better care you take
care of your body, environment, relationships, and spirit, the better
off you'll be in life, and the less stress you'll experience. Self care
is a way for you to show how deeply you care about yourself, and to
experience growth in self esteem and balance. If you focus on your own
well being first, you will then be in a position to care for others
around you appropriately. Honor your needs by asking for what you want,
and feeling and expressing your feelings fully.
#3: Face Your Fears Head On
People limit themselves because they're afraid of failure, of being
rejected, of being loved, or even because they're afraid of being
successful. Fear only comes up when you are taking risks and growing.
You can use fear as a signal to inspire and motivate you to take more
action. Pay conscious attention to your self-talk and mind chatter that
inner voice which will try to talk you out of trying new behaviors.
Enroll the support of others as you take on new challenges -- support
is critical when you're walking a new path.
#4: Create Inspiring Environments
Increasingly we are a product of our environments. These can include
our work environment, our friends, our network, and our physical
environment - such as nature, home, technology, and beauty - what we
surround ourselves with. It can also be the foods we keep in our house,
the beautiful objects and colors around us, the books we read, and the
movies we watch. Environments can reduce our stress by setting things
up to get done more easily, with less effort. Success and personal
development are more sustainable when there are environments and
failsafe structures which support it. The goal is to design supportive
environments that will inspire you to be your best and do great things.
As you develop your environments, you develop yourself and your
capacity to receive inspiration.
#5: Develop A Clear Vision and Worthy Goals
Most people have never defined the life they truly want. They may have
a dream, but not a clear vision of what they really want for their life
and work. People who write down their goals have a much better chance
of succeeding at living a meaningful life that takes them in the
direction they want to go. To have a life your truly want, you must
write it down and describe it in detail. That means making choices and
prioritizing actions. For example, if you have a goal to retire at 45,
start now on a path to financial independence by making regular
automatic contributions to a savings plan. Define the small steps that
will take you in the direction of your goals, and then take regular
action to achieve those goals.
#6: Express Your Core Values
When you are living your life in harmony with your values, you
naturally have more energy. Joseph Campbell described it as 'following
your bliss' - being true to your passions, interests, and what matters
most to you. Clarifying what really matters to you will set you free to
live life to its fullest potential. Knowing what you stand for allows
you to proactively seek the people, situations and things that support
those values. Clarifying your values and then living your life in
harmony with those values provides you with an inner peace and
tranquility that allows you to move confidently through life. Doing
meaningful work that honors your values gives you a real sense of
personal fulfillment and self-actualization. If you were living in
alignment with the noblest part of who you are, with your deepest
values, what would you do today to make a difference?
#7: Deepen Your Relationship with Community
Research has found that 85% of your happiness is determined by the
quality of relationships in your life and by your ability to get along
well with people. Loving relationships and a strong, caring network of
friends, family, and colleagues lowers your level of stress and
increases your longevity. Your ability to relate, communicate, and
negotiate well will empower you to lead a fulfilling life; as will
giving your gifts and talents in the service of others is one of the
key things that bring meaning to our lives.
A meaningful life starts with taking small steps every day. You can begin by making the choice to be fully conscious and awake to your life.
This article is written and published by Jan Marie Dore, Professional Certified Life Coach, Speaker and Writer, Jan supports executives and professionals to find balance in a busy world and get on the path to living a high quality, more fulfilling life - one that is meaningful, authentic, and a joy to wake up to every day. For free resources and programs on work-life balance and living your best life, visit Jan's website at http://www.janmariedore.com.
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