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Written by Rinatta Paries
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Keeping
a journal on a regular basis is one key skill in helping you both
attract your ideal relationship and re-create your current relationship.
Writing in journals allows you to "speak" feelings and thoughts without
censoring or concern of being understood by another person. Writing is
a way to have an extremely safe, honest conversation with no negative
consequences. It is a way to "dump" without anyone getting hurt. When
you can "dump" by writing, you are less likely to do so in your
relationships. You are also more likely to continue to grow and
develop, which is what's required for attracting your ideal
relationship.
Here is a list of situations where writing in a journal is useful:
- Every morning
Write to get clear about your intentions for the day, your feelings, your thoughts, and your wants.
- When you feel frustrated or afraid
If you are single and get frustrated or afraid about being able to
attract your ideal relationship, write about your feelings. If you are
in a relationship, journal about your fears and wants.
- When you want a breakthrough or an internal shift
Writing is one of the more potent tools to use when you want to put an end to a behavior or a thought pattern.
- When you feel angry or unheard in any relationship
Write when you have feelings that are too strong to express to another
person. When you write about your feeling and thoughts first, you will
be able to have a much more productive conversation later.
- When you don't know what or why you feel
Writing is a great way to get clear about what you feel why you feel it and to make sense of any situation.
- When you feel full
Write when you feel full and discontented for no apparent reason. By
putting down your thoughts and emotions you will create space and
perspective inside.
Journal writing is different than diary keeping some of us did as
children. It is not writing about your activities to create a daily or
a weekly record. It is not writing for the sake of just writing your
thoughts. It is writing that transforms. Below are some ideas to begin
writing in your journal.
Techniques and ideas for affective journaling:
- Describe
an issue or a situation in great detail. Then, write about where the
issue comes from, what you think and feel about it, what your life is
like because of it and how your life would be different if it was
solved.
- Dialogue with yourself to resolve the issue. Write
down all of your thoughts, then write down all of your feelings,
describing both in great detail.
- Pretend the person or people you need to communicate
with are in front of you. Write down every thing you want to say to
them, including your thoughts, feelings, reasons, etc.
Happy Journaling!
(c)
Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate?
Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent
yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach
you the skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy
partnerships.
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