Ok, over a year with no one to date and all of a sudden I meet two guys.  Eeeeeeeek!

Keep in mind that I didn\'t actually date guys until after I finished college, and then quickly met my now-ex husband so this is all new to me.

9/24 #1 - met on a Saturday night at the dance hall.  Total booty call.     Gave him my # and hoped he would call.

9/30 #2 - Friday night rolls around and I\'m back at the dance hall and meet another guy.  He calls me every day and we actually go out and have a nice time at least 3-4 times a week.  He keeps insisting we\'re \"just friends\" (I would say friends with benefits) and doesn\'t want the boyfriend label.

10/6 #1 finally calls me (2 weeks after we met) and wants to go out.  I want to go out with #1 (divorced/2 kids) but I feel guilty because #2 is acting like a boyfriend even if he\'s not saying boyfriend.

Eeeeeek.  Am I supposed to say something about dating more than one guy at a time?

Comments?  Laughter?  

 

I agree with Marissa.  

You don\'t have a relationship with either of these guys, so if you want to see both of them, I don\'t see any reason not to.  If you want to develop something with #1, at some point you and #2 will have to cut the benefits and really be just friends.

LOL - so much for #2 calling on Saturday.  His friends flaked on their Thursday night plans, and he called me.  I was shopping for stuff (light switch plate, new doorknob, etc) for the condo and he offered to come over for a couple hours and help out, which was nice.

He rides the bus (no car) so by the time he got there I was a bit cranky because I had not had dinner yet, but without me saying anything about it he had picked up food on the way over.  I was so grateful and it was totally sweet and thoughtful.

We touched on that \'friends\' thing again while we talked over dinner, and I made a comment that I guess I\'ll know when he\'s dating other girls \'cause I won\'t hear from him as often.  He said something about keeping his options open and I let the comment pass.  I\'m having a nice time, and don\'t see this going beyond friends, so I didn\'t see any point in continuing that line of discussion.

So he\'ll call me again on Saturday, and I\'ve got a date with #1 on Sunday.  Should be an interesting weekend to say the least!

Date #1 has not called since our date on Sunday.  I\'ve decided that I\'m not going to see him anymore - he\'s just too flaky.

Date #2 and I are going to spend Saturday together, and I\'m really looking forward to it.  I realized this morning that I have a much better time with date #2, and that he\'s dependable.

I think that hits it on the nail!!

Good for you! That sounds really promising, I like him a lot more than the other guy.  I hope it works out well for you and you really enjoy each other.