Ok, this may not be the right place but I have to vent.  My daughter got married last Friday. She wanted a stress-free wedding but it didn't work out that way. So here is what happened. I wasn't asked to help except financially.  I couldn't do much in that area but I gave what I could.  My other daughter was the bridesmaid.  The two girls were going to finish getting ready at the site then leave together for the pictures.  The problems: My daughter the bride (J), forgot to make arrangements to have the food delivered. She called me to pick it up. I did.  My bridesmaid daughter (A) didn't show up until the picture time.  I got called in to get the flower girls and J dressed.  We were 20 minutes late for pictures, the groom was 40 minutes late. Then it started to rain. No more outdoor pictures. We head back to the venue, and touch up.  The wedding starts, but no one can hear because the mikes aren't working. The cake starts to melt and my mom tries to fix it which seems to upset the grooms mom, who made the cake. The grooms family/friends and the brides family/friends stay on opposite sides of the room...like the old boy-girl dances of times past. Ok, so we can live with that then hell breaks loose.  My mom tries to dance with me (some face paced dance...swing?), I have a glass of wine in my hand, the glass slips out and falls to the floor. Yes, it splashes onto my daughter's reception dress.  She is furious. So there are no pictures with her and the family. I apologized many times, offered to have the dressed cleaned before she leaves for the honeymoon but to no avail.  I step downstairs to give her some room and to pick up the dressing room (it was a mess!).  People began leaving around 9 pm (a few had to work the next day) which upset the bride.  My other daughter (A) made an announcement that the bride and groom had to open one of the gifts (the one from their dad) because it was 'an awesome' gift.  Two people made comments that it was rude and offensive to do that.  The brides daughter stayed with me while they were on their honeymoon.  During that time I broke one of the dolls that she brought over which happened to be a Christmas gift from her mom.  I have offered to buy another one for her, if it is available.  I feel like the worst person on planet earth and can't seem to get it right. This truly feels horrible.

I agree with you Jen, and further more, I dare say you should not be beating yourself up over this, you have done way more than I would have if I were put in that situation. Sometimes people will take you for granted if yo let them, be it friends, family (spouses and kids included) or co workers. Sometimes you have to be selfish and put you first, and that starts with forgiving your self for what happened because you did not have any control over it.