I had a guy-crisis this weekend and none of my friends were around to help me out… Just when I thought all was lost, I happened upon an app for my iPhone called "Pocket Cupid". The app is a way for you to get quick love advice from a team of experts…

I asked them my question and got a very quick, very helpful response. This may sound a bit like an advertisement, but I assure you, I am just a very satisfied woman looking to spread the word.

Here’s the question I asked (and the response I got)

Question : Been dating this guy for a year and we live an hour away and each have 2 kids, none together but I told him recently that I loved him and he basically said sorry but I don’t feel the same way. but he cares for me he said that almost killed me it hurt so much, all he says still to this day that he doesn’t know what he wants. He’s been separted from his ex for 8 years, so is waiting for her to go back to him or is he looking for someone better to come along? I’ve only told him that one time that I loved him and been trying to back away slowly but that’s really hard for me, so what should I do becuz I need advice very badly

A: Shannon: First of all I would like to compliment you on your emotional courage and strength. It’s really takes a hell of a person to say those big three words, (I Love you). Men in general move at a snails pace when it comes to emotional intimacy and to make matters worse, they are commitment phobes. The best thing that you can do is reboot the relationship and just concentrate on having a good time with him. Live in the moment and do not talk about the future with him. do not be concerned with what he does when you are not with him. Think back to how it was in the beginning and how your carefree / sexy attitude made him crave you. I know how hard this maybe when he has basically told you that he isn’t i love with you. Please remember that this guy might not know what love really is or he might be terrified to admit this to you. Men associate emotional vulnerability (love) with weakness, this might be the reason why he emotionally distances himself from you. In the meantime date other guys, and please realize that another guy out there will be more than happy to fall in love with you and be man enough to admit it.


This app is no joke. I thought I’d post it here in case it might help some of you girls. Let me know if you’ve had any experience with this app (or anything else like it) – Shannon