Hi, I just got married last year and things aren't going as well as i'd like. I don't know if its just stress or what because we are going through a lot. But he doesn't listen to me when I talk, I know its a man thing. But I grew up with a dad who listened to my mom and I . Actually they would drive around talking, its what I know and I can barely get anything out of my husband. He talks over me sometimes or will cut me off or do that hand gesture that is telling me to get on with what i'm saying. It drives me up the wall but to be fair, he is trying to change and do better. But it makes me insane and I have no one to talk to this about, my best friend has a lot of personal problems right now so I can't talk to her. My mom and I just don't talk about these things and I just let this fester and its not healthy. I really don't want to say anything to him about it right now or make him talk because he has a lot on his mind, but I think I kind of deserve the same respect that I give him. I really don't care about social issues as much as him but I listen because he doesn't have anyone to talk to. Its not just this but other things too and I get upset but then I realize that its just the first year. He'd never had a girlfriend before me so I guess i'm getting the crappy end of that lol. I have material things but emotionally its not working yet. It worked before, or I thought it was.  I don't know what to do or how to deal with this and I want to be patient but i'm going stir crazy. We aren't even sleeping in the same bed anymore, not because anything was wrong but it was more comfortable. The bed was way too small for the both of us and it was too hard so I moved to the room with the nicer bed. It was only supposed to be for a few nights and its turned into 3 months. This is why I don't want to freak out yet, things are too up in the air right now but its not good. I don't even know if it bothers him and because we don't talk I don't want to ask. We have been reduced to being room mates, doesn't it take 20 years to do that? lol *sigh*

  being married is difficult, love, as you are finding out, is not enough! If he´s trying, that already is a success. Maybe he feels rejected because you "moved out" of the  bed? And, maybe he thinks if he says that you´ll feel offended or pressured or something like that?? Invite him over to "your" comfy bed.

If he´s open to it, you should try couples counseling. If he´s not, it might be a good idea for you to go to a therapist to help you understand the best way to deal with the situation....

Good luck! 

wow, this is scary in a way. I guess I can say I'm very lucky!

I met my fiance almost 8 years ago. We've had our tough times and are getting married next year. Together we worked them out and never had problems like you are saying. In my opinion if a man is hurrying you to shut up, he has no interest in what you are saying and if he's your husband he definitely should. I agree that you should try to spice up the bed situation and see what his reaction is. If he still has no interest, then I would be very worried as to what else is going on in his life, besides you!!! Not trying to sound harsh, just help you out! I'd hate to go through something like this. My fiance wants a bigger bed but would never put me in another room. We just decided to get us a King size as soon as we move into our new home next year Then setting the wedding date soon after!