Hi Everyone, I am hoping you will please all help me by taking my hand as I take hers! Here's the situation as I posted on Yahoo Questions:

How can I find a support forum to help my best friend to leave her abuser?
My best friend still believes she loves her long time BF, but less than a month ago, this man had her in his car when he became angry and (first time hitting her face) blackened her eye, and then he wouldn't pull over and let her out of the car.  He told her he was "taking her somewhere where he could "FINISH THIS"...and that he was "taking her where no one would find her".

Luckily by the time he'd driven a while, he had either calmed down, or chickened out.   I am firmly convinced that this is how MOST women end up dead.  She broke it off, but It's been about three weeks and now he's promising her the sun, moon and stars.

We've been friends for many years. I asked her if I'd beaten her and threatened her life, would she still be my friend?  It was an eye-opening, thought provoking question, but it's not enough.

I want her to be able to log in and be welcomed as she processes her feelings of loss and attempts to gather her strength.

She's a beautiful and bright woman and intellectually she knows he is dangerous, but emotionally she is in grave danger of slipping back into his grasp.

She says she loves him, but I keep reminding her she loves who she *wishes* he'd be, not who he is.

She desperately needs a support forum of wise women to guide her and give her strength to stay away.   

Can anyone help me to know where to send her online for this? Are there women here who will do this?

*I'm working with her, but I'm in over my head trying to do it alone.*

Is there a group who would help me take her under our wings?  If so, I'll invite here here and we can all take her hand and give her the support and guidance she will need.

She is my dearest friend and I don't want to end up at her funeral.  I've been doing my best, but this is a job for a whole Tribe of Wise and caring women.

Hugs, Twice Shy

Thanks! She knows the signs--but is SO addicted...it's like a cult or drug prob. Sad--she's a successful, brilliant businesswoman by day. I gave her a local therapists # who is a DV expert. I'm doing anything to avoid a funeral! Thanks for the great tips.  I'm still shopping for a forum for her too.

Online support wouldn't be enough. Look for support groups around your town and contact her family and other close friends who can help out.