This summer is a whole new world for me - having a somewhat mobile 14 year old - out of school for the whole summer. Setting a curfew and biking boundaries has never been an issue in the past, before this year, if he wasn't home he was at his best friends house down the street.

We live in a large housing plan neighborhood, which is up a long hill about 1 mile long, and about 2 miles away from the center of our small suburban town & shopping district.

Suddenly this summer, he has a ton of new friends in the neighborhood, whose parents let them ride their bikes anywhere, and let them stay out until 11:00 every night. DS thinks I am being "over-protective" because I said he has to be in by 10:30 on weeknights, and 11:00 on weekends, and he is not allowed to be on his bike outside of the neighborhood after dark. 

So far, complaints and all, he is abiding, but we have a lot of summer left! I can't believe I was not prepared for this! DH and I both grew up a little further up this same hill. I can remember NEVER being allowed to ride my bike on the main road down to town... I still agree with my teenage self that my parents were way over-protective not letting me when everyone else could.  Of course, my parents think we are nuts letting DS ride his bike down to the community pool with his friends!

Sounds fine to me as well. I think my curfew was the same at that age, and even OLDER!

I really appreciate you all responding and your back up on this....

Today, (Fathers Day) DH is really still sick (possibly phenomena again) so, my Dad really wanted to take the boys to his Club Pool. 14 yr old DS bitched and moaned that he didn't want to go, because he would not know anyone there  "because only the rich (private school) kids go there!" We told DS he could handle a day hanging out with his Grandfather without his friends....

So, as soon as my Dad picked him up, DS manipulated my Dad, and had him pick up his friend on the way out of the neighborhood! My Dad, being the cool guy he is said nothing  about having to pay for a guest  to come to his club, but I think it was total BS for DS to pull that!

DS is now grounded, for one week... I told him:
 "not telling me everything is the same thing as bold-face lying to my face. Neither will be accepted in this house. That kind of "omitting the truth" crap might fly with your friends parents, but it does not here. You will always be honest with me about everything, or you will not have the freedom to leave this house. You want me to allow you to go to HS party's? I have told you that you must first prove that I can trust you to make the right choices - this does not..."