I was talking about this with one of the dads at ballet today.  We were talking about what people do when they either need help but can\'t see that they do, or know that they do but cannot/will not allow themselves to seek it out.

I think that I am getting better about allowing others to help me, but there are still plenty of times when I feel like I have something to prove and can\'t do it if I\'m \'dependent\' on someone else.  When I was pregnant and on bedrest for so long, I felt pathetic and hated knowing that people were feeling sorry for me.  In retrospect, however, I see that neither was the case.  If I knew someone today who was going through what I went through, and I knew there was something I could do to lighten their spirits or make sometheing easier, I would want to.

It\'s a gift of relationship, really, to be able to ask for and accept help.

me? superwoman? ask for help??  

I guess it really depends on who I am asking for help.

In the program I\'m in that is one of the main things that we have to re-learn how to do \'ask for help\'.  Most of us got where we were because we wouldn\'t reach out when we were having struggles, dangerous thoughts/actions, etc.  Or that we (I) just plain isolated and built 10 foot walls around me. :y32b4:  

The problem is it\'s hard to know when I need to ask for help... I\'m just so used to NOT doing it.

Post edited by: Lara, at: 2005/09/24 10:34