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January 09, 2009, 01:27:06 PM
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« on: June 13, 2005, 03:49:43 PM »

Just in time too!  Ok, singles and the rest of you, chime in on this one.

I was out dancing (Country Western) and a guy who was kinda sauced asked me to teach him to country dance.  We hit it off and had a fun time.  I said I\'d be there again the next weekend and that they had dance lessons at 7:30pm.

The next weekend he actually showed up, and on time, and remembered my name.  He apologized for being so sauced the last weekend, and we talked and danced and had a great time.

This past weekend we talked, and he can\'t come out dancing anymore because we are really drawn to each other.  He is here locally to visit/help out his parents for a few weeks, but lives in another state and is married with kids.

I totally understand, and I admire that he\'s faithful.  He feels guilty for enjoying my company these past three Sat. evenings (And, before you ask, there was NO kissing or anything of that nature).

Question to the Divas - I don\'t feel guilty, because I don\'t think that talking and dancing are over the line.  What do the Divas think?  Should he feel guilty?  Should I?

 
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« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2005, 03:31:50 AM »

It\'s interesting isn\'t it? Just what does \'cheating\' translate as for some people. I think in your situation the line is drawn with what he was comfortable with. Some guys, or girls mightn\'t think it was in any way wrong to dance and chat with another woman... but for some reason he began to feel uncomfortable with it. Maybe he felt like he was making a \'date\' with you, meeting up again for dancing, and as he\'s away from home .. the feelings of doing the wrong thing as far as his concience is concerned are heightened. He may have a genuine desire to dance, but it was in a setting for him which may have felt wrong for him. I think I admire him for eventually telling you what he thinks. Maybe he was a little attracted to you and actually took notice of the warning bells inside his mind... which is pretty good. I think married men should feel free to dance and chat with single women as long as the wife is at the same party and / or its a place where its some kind of club or family event. I think its tough... Ive been to parties when no married men even talk to me! And wives were present so its not like a man could cheat etc... sometimes we need to forget we\'re married/single and just connect on a friendship level only with the opposite sex, now wouldnt that be ideal? Luckily I work with men and women so at least in the workplace can have some interaction with males ... but life can be tough for a single woman on the social scene.

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« Reply #2 on: June 30, 2005, 12:36:42 AM »

From what you wrote, he went over the line.  There doesn\'t have to be even a kiss for someone to be cheating.

Glad he finally came clean.  Please RUN.

Been there, done that
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